It’s Her Fault… But Why Not His?

When we think about ourselves, it is evident that often, what makes us female or male is based on the characteristics we have. Females are often associated with weaker traits. Loving, patience, have compassion, affectionate and be submissive are something which we often see the media portrays. Even elderlies advised their female offspring’s to be more ladylike, in which some traits are to be polite, gentle, soft-spoken and so forth. Men however are often associated with stronger traits such as having power, strength, intelligence, discipline and confidence. Often, we hear lines such as “don’t be a girl” or “that is such as girly thing to say/do”, yet, what makes it so wrong to behave or be a female?

Stereotypes should not begin at a young age, it will cause discrimination don’t you think?

Living in our society today, children growing up are adhere to a set of gender roles with fixed concepts about what is a “boyish” or “girlish” thing to do. Children are born into a society where feminine and masculinity is set upon each female and male to follow as they grow. Those that comply are deem as a good child while those that do not are labeled as social outcast. This mindset that is establish by society has affected the people to conform and confine within this boundaries, the social norm they call it. A potential threat is thus seen as one when any child is not in compliance with this frame of mind.

Looking at the happenings today, it can be seen that woman are still seen as the weaker group and should be restricted in order to avoid misfortune. This is significant in the case of India. India has been in the spotlight since the 2012 rape and death of a young physiotherapy student on a public bus (Khan, et al., 2013). Even before, the 2011 book titled “Why loiter? : Women and Risk on Mumbai Streets” disputes onto why women’s right into public space is of concern (Krishnan & Sengupta, 2013). The incident of Pandey and Shakti Mills gang rape (Staff, 2014) demonstrates how a female, even in the presence of a companion is vulnerable to the danger of men. The book demonstrates how even in a public space women are exposed to danger, implying that women should be responsible not to provoke by strolling the streets. A public space should be both available to male and female regardless of gender issues. It is free, and should be open to both genders without discrimination and concerns of safety.

In short, these happenings further demonstrate a question of why is it that women are the ones to blame for the rape, the murder, and the injustice? Why should women confine to the fix concept since young to avoid getting into danger? Most importantly, it should be highlight that both men and women, bears the responsibility of their actions regardless of gender yet why in society this concept is not rightfully applicable?

Men and Women are both equal, yet this image exist in the world today. Don’t you think it is wrong?


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Public Sphere: The Blurred Line

The internet has always been a platform where people communicate with each other. In terms of how the media reports headlines onto their websites, to friends conversing over Facebook chat, this channel is likely a new platform where information is sent and received effectively. Over the course of years, it has affected society’s behavior in communication. In short, the public sphere and private space today is blurred due to the constant changing of discourse through the internet.

An actual public sphere, according to Habermas, is groups of only middle class males on par with aristocrats in the 18th century that comes together at a physical space to discuss about issues (McGuigan, 2005). The ideal public sphere however is of both males and females that aims for equality and freedom of expression which was not present during the 18th century. Nevertheless, a public sphere is a concept of an ideal space for the occurrence of a group of people exchanging ideas and information. In addition, the public sphere derives from private issues that moves into a public domain. With that being said, a private space is much more personal that the public sphere. However, how does one distinguish both of this evidently today when the private space has shrunk dramatically with the advancing of internet?

Looking at the case of infamous Vivian Lee and Alvin Tan (Singapore, 2012), a couple who posted pictures and videos on their nudity, came under fire with the officials. It was found that initially, these photos were for private use but was later uploaded onto their personal sites for whoever that came across. Personally, it is hard to understand how a personal matter came to light when it was meant for mere self-expression. Why did such personal matter entered the public sphere with such harsh discourse?

Everything considered, it is clear that the internet as a platform has alter the way people communicate. It has also affected how the public sphere and a private space is distinguish with the presence of the internet, which the blurred line is still unclear.

What do you think?

Can the Private Information Online Private or Has it Turn Public?


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